"Peace is not an absence of war; it is
a virtue, a state of mind, a disposition for benevolence, confidence,
justice.” * We live in a world of wars on the large scale, and not
much peace on the smaller scales. Our cities, neighborhoods and homes
are often mini war zones. Even when the surface seems calm, the
attitudes underneath are far from benevolent or virtuous. It sounds easy sometimes—John Kennedy
once said that “Our problems are man-made, therefore they can be
solved by man.”** I have heard so many
people, from major politicians to ordinary people, explain patiently
that they are a person of goodwill, therefore, if the problem is
explained rationally, then others will understand and cooperate.
We can see that it's not that simple.
Even with a desire for a solution, we all come with differing
experiences and expectations that we ourselves often don't recognize and
understand. Someone who been cheated, for example, will read things
into others' behavior that may or may not have any relationship to
reality. In my business, state regulations require that we get a
customer's signature on a repair estimate and approval of any
necessary increases. Our customers' expectations may not match our
estimates, and the discussion may not be peaceful. I remember a lady
who came in one day with her husband's shopping list of items that
averaged about $5-10 each. He had told her not to pay more than $2
each. Sometimes the problem is information, but people’s hearts are
not that simple.
What makes it difficult is that from a
Biblical point of view, our problems may not be man-made, and not
solvable on a human scale. We see evidence throughout history and
Scripture that there is evil in this world; the “prince of this
world” does not promote true peace. Jesus told his followers that
“In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have
overcome the world.” (John 16:33) Recently when a pushy customer
was being loud and unreasonable out in the shop, I was led to pray
hard for peace. And about an hour after the customer stomped out
muttering threats, he came back, apologized for his behavior, and was
willing to make peace. The change was in his heart. Even when we
figure out the tricks our minds can play on us, recognition is only
the first step in breaking the hold of longstanding hurts and
reactions. Once again, we are back to a key choice: are we willing to
give up whatever is interfering with the peace of our own hearts, and
peace with the others in our lives? The track record of our ability
to make peace on our own effort is not good; true peace comes from
the Prince of Peace.
*Baruch Spinoza, 1670
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